*be transparent to yourself*

be open, not just obvious, and not seeming self-centered, but be clear about revealing important things about yourself and things flies around you, limitations and expectations, in work and play. REVEAL, in a nice and acceptable way, what you want and don't want but not hiding from yourself or from others.

FIRST thing that you should do in the FIRST way are

"you should do what your heart tells you to do"

be sincere,